How to approach women

by Tiffany Taylor 

Women don’t usually go to bars on their own. They go in groups.

In this situation you really need to understand the art of how to approach women.

Approaching groups of women can be intimidating, and if you don’t get it right, you can fail miserably. I’ve seen men sworn at or totally ignored - and even drinks poured over them. All because they didn't understand how to approach women!

But if you get the approach right, your success with a group of women can bring great results.

Whenever I suggest approaching groups of women, I get loads of men looking at me as though I’m from outer space.

I realise that many guys probably don’t have the confidence to walk up to beautiful women they don’t know.

Don’t worry, this can be easily solved. I’ll give you some simple tips here.

Walk round a shopping precinct and when you catch a woman’s eye, smile at her. More often than not, she’ll smile back.

To start with you can do this just with shop employees. Even if they don’t want to smile, they probably will. Good practice. And you might even brighten a few women’s lives a little.

Once you’ve gained some confidence in how to approach women working in the stores, you could move on to other girls in the mall. I’m not suggesting big, weird freaky smiles, just nice, natural friendly ones. A lot of women will smile back at you.

Here’s where it might seem a little weird, but this really does help - and practice and repetition will make this lots easier.

Just say “hi” with a smile to women (and men if you like) as you walk around the mall. It will feel horrible at first if you are not confident, but slowly, after an hour or two, it’ll seem easy.

After you’ve smiled and said "hi" to 20 or 30 women, you should start to feel that you're mastering the art of how to approach women.

One word of warning, though: Don’t quit on your first negative response. This will happen and will happen when you’re approaching women to pick them up - you have to learn to step out of your comfort zone if you want to learn how to approach

women.

One of my male friends tried the “smile at girls in the mall” technique and he actually ended up meeting the girl of his dreams and is still with her three years later. How’s that for effective!

There are many other techniques you can master to build your confidence, most not quite as scary as the mall one. I go into others in my book, Guy Gets Girl.

Right, let’s assume you now have the confidence and knowledge of how to approach women you don’t know in a bar.

Firstly, let’s suppose two girls are sitting together. One is the ‘ugly’ one and one is the hot one (the one you like the look of and would like to get to know more).

You see the girls. Go up to them and talk to them NOW! Don’t waste time. Within three seconds of seeing them, approach them. Some people call this "the three second rule" and I must say it really does seem to work.

It’s best not to think too much about the approach, or you’re more likely to work yourself into such a state that it will be ineffective - or you’ll just wimp out altogether!

(Don’t worry, I’ll tell you WHAT to say in a future lesson).

So, within three seconds, go talk to her!

ALWAYS approach a woman from the side or an angle from the front. NEVER from behind - IMPORTANT!!!

If you go up to a group of women at the bar and approach from behind, you will instantly invoke a negative response, and they will be put on the defensive - for obvious reasons.

Like to learn more about how to approach girls, how to meet women, how to attract women and how to seduce women?

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