How to ask a girl out

by John Alexander, author of How To Become An Alpha Male

I recently had the easiest pick-up of my life. And it provides the perfect illustration of how to ask a girl out.

As I strolled by a random woman, I said: "Hey."

She looked up, expecting me to say something interesting.

My follow-up was: "Do you know where the smoothie place is? I'm in the mood for a smoothie."

After that, she kept the conversation going, and the rest, as they say, is history! Now that's what I call happy talking!

Here's the key: I always made sure she was reacting to me more than I was reacting to her.

I always bear this in mind when figuring out how to ask a girl out.

When I started speaking to the woman, I frankly couldn't care less about what she thought of me.

My mindset was: "I'm just going through my day. But hey, if some hot chick wants to earn my attention, that's cool. If not, I'm going to enjoy my day just the same."

I've coached a lot of guys about how to ask a girl out, and the mistake I most often see a man make when he opens a conversation with a girl is that he tries to get a response from her.

Maybe he tries too hard to make her laugh. Or he starts asking her weird questions that he shouldn't be interested in when speaking to a total stranger

This sets her up with a higher value than him.

You see, whenever you set a girl up with a higher value than you (like when you're trying to win her approval), this causes her to lose attraction for you.

In every conversation, there is always one person who is reacting more than the other one. The person who reacts less (ie, is the more relaxed of the two) is the more dominant, or alpha, person.

The person trying to win the other's approval is the one who's more attracted. So a girl will struggle to make small talk and keep the conversation going as long as your value is higher than hers.

When considering how to ask a girl out, always remember that women are attracted to men who are a challenge for them.

If at some point it becomes clear that you're trying to win her approval, there's no longer a challenge for her and she loses interest.

Keep the alpha status and stay in control of the situation right from the beginning.

Make sure you never react too much to what a girl says. Always remain more relaxed than her.

So the answer to the question of how to ask a girl out is: Don't try. Don't care what she thinks. Just say whatever you want. Happy talking!

For more top advice on the easy way to talk to girls, check out How To Become An Alpha Male.

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