How to pick up girls in bars

You go out with your mates for a night on the town, and you think you know a thing or two about picking up girls in bars.

You head to a bar and order drinks. The place is packed and you and your friends are having a good time looking at all the pretty girls ... except that none of you is meeting any of them.

You want to talk to them, but you feel more comfortable sitting around with your mates chatting about how you would like to take a girl home that night. Instead, you all end up leaving the same way you came in - together.

This is a common occurrence among lovelorn bachelors when it comes to picking up girls in bars, according to Thundercat, author of How To Approach Women.

 It's a symptom of what he calls the 'comfort zone'.

"Basically, everyone has a comfort zone." he says.

"This is a state of mind where people are surrounded by that which is familiar. Familiarity breeds complacency, which can keep you from taking the actionnecessary to achieve your goals, because that action introduces uncertainty into your life - something the comfort zone likes to keep at bay."

So when you want to pick up girls in bars, you need to know how to break out of this comfort zone.

How do you do this? The answer is self-evident: You must learn to meet women by yourself.

Friends can be a great asset, but most of the time, going out with mates actually hinders your ability when picking up girls in bars. 

Not just because of the comfort zone factor, but because other guys who don't know what they're doing with girls can actually ruin the interactions you have with them - be it by jealousy or ineptitude.

So the best way to counter this is to leave your friends behind if you intend picking up girls in bars.

But the prospect of going out by oneself to pick up girls in bars can strike fear into the hearts of men.

After all, doesn't going out by yourself signal to everyone that you're a loser with no friends? Doesn't it make you look creepy?

The answer to both these questions is a resounding NO!

The simple act of going out on your own can shake your comfort zone, because you have no anchors to keep you there.

Often your friends will act as an anchor to your comfort zone that keep you from approaching women. And it is easier to break out of this comfort zone without those anchors present.

Plus, you don't have to worry about failing in picking up women in bars and being judged by your friends if they're not around.

But the most powerful thing about going out by yourself is that it puts your focus on what you are doing. This means that every interaction you have is without distraction, so it is more easily examined and the problems you had are more easily identified.

This allows you to spot your sticking points more quickly and correct them.

Not only that, but being out by yourself gives you the freedom of flexibility when iit comes to where you're going and who you talk to. If you're bored with a place, you can leave and go to another one.

Thundercat adds: "Knowing what to say will help you to go out by yourself and succeed at increasing your ability in picking up girls in bars

"Once you learn the secrets I unleash in my book, you'll know how to meet any woman, any time, anywhere you may be - whether you're alone or not!"