I Want Her Back

If you have recently experienced a break up, you may well be saying over and over to yourself: "I want her back."

Almost every adult has experienced some kind of a break up, and most just work on moving on rather than looking for a way to get an ex back.

But if you are through playing the victim and want to put some work into getting an ex back, there are options for you.

Everyone deals with break up, but does break up really mean you cannot get back together with your ex?

The fact is that 90 per cent of the time there is no reason why you cannot get an ex back after a break up, provided you know the necessary steps.

It's no good just wallowing in self-pity, constantly whining to your friends: "I want her back."

The first step is to determine what exactly happened that caused the break up.

Although you cannot go back into the past, and you cannot change what happened, you can learn from the mistakes that were made and you can try to learn and grow from the experiences.

You need to have a plan of action.

The break up may have occurred because of a single event, or it may have occurred from behaviours that your ex could not deal with anymore.

No matter what the reason, you need to get the specifics figured out so that you can deal with the situation if it should never come up again.

You can get an ex back if you know how, but if you want to make it work on a long-term basis, you need to figure out what went wrong in the first place.

The next step in the process is to ensure you are not presenting yourself as a needy person.

You may well feel you cannot live without your ex, but there is no point in making this obvious.

Instead, you should stay strong, and let your ex see that you are doing just fine by yourself.

If you let everyone around you see your comfort and self confidence, you will have a better chance of getting back together with your ex.

Trying to get back at your ex - or trying to make her jealous - is not a good way to operate. In fact, these are some of the worst things you can possibly do, because it shows your ex that she should simply move on because you already have.

While you do want your ex to see that you're doing OK, you do not want it to inspire her to completely move on if your ideal scenario is to get back together.

Let your ex see how strong and self-confident you are, and she will feel inspired to get back together with you.

Then you won't need to say to yourself: "I want her back."

It will have happened!

If you are newly-separated and want to get back with your ex-girlfriend, check out The Magic Of Making Up.