No More Mr Nice Guy

by Thundercat

ArtOfApproaching.com

Being a nice guy with women doesn't work, not because you get too caught up in what a girl wants and get stuck as a friend, but because nice guys are typically very, very ... SELFISH!

So your motto should be: No more Mr Nice Guy.

That's right. When you're a nice guy, you're not really being nice, you're being emotionally greedy. And you'll be just another one of the nice guy losers.

Let me explain...

One of the biggest problems guys who are struggling with women face is something I like to call "the Nice Guy factor."

So many men have such a weak identity and so little self-esteem, that they base their own self-worth on what other people think of them.

If you're one of these men, you need to turn things round. In other words ... no more Mr Nice Guy.

These guys are at the mercy of everyone else in their lives, so they try their best to please the people around them, hoping they'll continue to think highly of them, so they can feel good about themselves.

That's not so bad, right? It feels good when others approve of you, doesn't it?

Most people look at this behaviour and would instantly categorise these poor men in the "Nice Guys" column.

After all, they're the ones who don't like conflict. They're the ones who don't want to make waves. They're the ones who want everyone to be happy.

They are also some of the most selfish people on the planet. Seriously. I know this because I used to be one of these people - and I know all their dirty little secrets!

But one day I got a wake-up call and said to myself: "No more Mr Nice Guy."

Using other people's feelings and goodwill is not only harmful, but dishonest!

Once the needy demands of nice guys go unmet, they fall into the deep pits of self-pity and depression. They also feel a lot of shame and anger at their failure to please the women they want.

This kind of mentality can extremely damage your self-respect and cause others not to want to be around you.

So what's a "Nice Guy" to do? Simple: No more Mr Nice Guy.

If you want to have success with women, you need to stop being agreeable and instead be straightforward and honest, especially when you have to go against the wishes of others and disappoint them.

You can do this with kindness and sensitivity, but you MUST do this nonetheless.

Only by being honest, with yourself and with others, will you be able to overcome the selfish "nice guy" habits you have adopted in your life.

And when you do this, you will stop caring about what other people think of you, because the source of your validation comes from the fact that you're being true to yourself and straightforward with others, and you will cease to harbour resentment and anger, and have more self-respect and less depression.

It can be hard being honest with others and yourself but in the end it is far more rewarding than any other behaviour you can adopt.

So, you know what to do: No more Mr Nice Guy! Don't be one of the nice guy losers.

Your first step on the road to being that type of guy should be to read my book The Art of Approaching Women. 

In it, you will learn how to create the opportunities with women you'll need to practise being straightforward and honest with them.

Once you adopt this new way of thinking, you will see your success with women dramatically improve, so don't wait...

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